Dreams Can Come True!
Some time ago, a good friend of mine became pregnant after years and years of trying. Initially, she was so focused on having a baby that every waking minute was taken up with thinking about it. She would obsess about the best times for fertility, best diet and many different things but more importantly, she would focus intently on why it wasn’t happening. Then, after a good few years, she gave up the obsessing, the focusing and trying too hard. That’s when she became pregnant.
Have you heard a story like this before? It might sound familiar to you because it’s really common, not only with couples trying to conceive but in many other different situations. When you focus on something so intently that it’s all you think about, the focus is on lack and the fact that you don’t have that thing in your life. I have another friend who for years was obsessed with finding ‘Mr Right.’ The desperation was cringe worthy, especially when you heard words like, “1:45, okay, 15 minutes to find a man.” (The nightclub closed at 2am, you see.) Sometimes she did find a man, sometimes she didn’t but he was never good enough to be Mr Right, only Mr Right Now! The sad thing was that she always thought tonight would be the night to meet him and since those she met were always ‘less than perfect,’ she would drive them away with her obsessiveness, only to hook up with someone else the next again week. Then finally, after another disastrous relationship, she took time off work and her endless clubbing to take care of a relative. Not long after this, she met the man she would later marry, in the place that she had been working for the previous 15 years.
So what’s the moral of these 2 very similar stories? Let it go!
When you cling to a dream or hope there is real desperation in that clinging and the focus is on how empty your life is without it. So it is no surprise that we attract this same recurring emptiness if that is all we focus on. Your mind is immersed in the thought that you are incomplete in some way. Wake up to the fact that you are 100% complete as you are, truly know and understand this. Self love and compassion, as I have spoken about previously, is the first step to peace and creating the life you want. By doing this, you are letting it go, whatever it is and when you begin to feel thankful and appreciative for what you have and how you don’t need anything to make your life complete – who knows what may be around the corner.